Expanding into Freedom from your Limiting Box
Whenever
we make headway in our evolutionary process, we expand beyond our prior
limitations. Throughout our 3-D life, we live in a three-dimensional
space I call the “box.” Every one of us live in our own unique box that
contains the space of possibilities we believe are available to us.
Some people live in big spacious boxes. Others live in tiny,
restrictive ones. This space is defined by the limits and boundaries we
have learned from our culture while growing up, either through
difficult personal experience, or by the Self-Image we develop and hold
of ourselves.
Note: For more on developing your New Self’s Self-Image, listen to the Greater Self Process teleseminar at http://www.greaterselfprocess.com. Click on the teleseminar link at the bottom of the page. This is an overview on creating and building your Divine Self Image.
We
have learned to live within the box, and what is inside our box we deem
to be “normal.” If any reality or life experience that shows up is
grander and greater than the box, or if we push the box and expand it,
we experience an expanded reality. This is usually considered a fluke!
A miracle!
You’ve
heard the term “think outside the box.” It’s been popular for a decade
or two in corporate culture. Those who can think outside the box are
those who can go beyond the tired old answers for corporate problems
and bring in new answers with fresh new ideas. In a sense, they are
visionaries for the business world, most often marketing and management
consultants, who offer their imaginative innovations with practical
guidance to help the company achieve greater success (profit).
Similarly,
on a personal level, to think outside of our personal boxes requires us
to become visionaries ourselves. If you’ve been following and utilizing
the first three phases of this Siriun year, you have embraced your own
Visionary Self, whether it is your Greater Self, your Dream Future or
Ideal Future Self, or your Optimal Future Self.
Your
Visionary Self, your Dream Future Self, your Greater Self, et al, are
all images of you and identities of you that you are evolving into and
are “out of the box.” They exist beyond the collective consensus
mainstream reality definitions of you and your own acceptance of
cultural limitations.
You
have learned from my previous communications how to accelerate that
evolutionary process to step into your Greater Self. All this is part
of knowing and owning who you truly are as a Divine Being who is
having a physical plane experience, and who is here on a Mission,
following your Divine Plan.
Back
in the second phase of the Siriun year, I told you about the “Test.”
This happens after you expand your Self-Image during the Sirius Vortex
period, the first phase. You see, when you grow, you expand your
personal box to accommodate a larger energy and field of light that is
you.
But
if you don’t sustain this expanded level in a larger box, your old
issues will reappear as a stressful challenge, or even as a snap-back.
This pressures you urgently to return to that old self you were a year
earlier or so, and react and respond in the very same way you used to,
just before the expansion.
If
you do this, your reaction and responses will come from the perspective
and within the old limits of that lesser or smaller box, the old self.
The result will be that your reality will contract to be consistent
with that lesser you and your expansion will be lost. This is the
essence of the “Test,” and we all face this cyclically as we grow and
expand our consciousness.
Passing
the Test means that you can sustain a better perspective on yourself
and on your reality as you continue to maintain your slightly enlarged
box. Then you can enlarge the box again, and again, keeping up the
expansion of your image. This is why I gave the free Greater Self
Process seminar.
2018 is a Year to Transcend the Collective
This
time however, the challenge to your box isn’t just personal, it’s
collective. When you envision your Dream or Ideal Future, or work with
your Future Self, you are relating to an expanded version of yourself,
your Greater Self. Your Future Self’s box is quite larger and he or she
is very comfortable living inside that box. If the box is expanded
enough, you feel very free. Energy flows. Magic abounds. This is the
state we all want!
Now
this Future you have envisioned needs to be expanded to contain your
culture and the people in your world as well as yourself. In Phase
Four, you are not only expanding your box again, but you are expanding
the box of the culture, of the collective. In other words, by doing your own personal box expansion, you are also doing the work of the world.
This is part of your global mission as well as your personal one. And
when you think outside the box here, you are dreaming a New World for
everyone.
Boundaries of the Box
Your
boundaries are self-chosen limits you wish to have. You need
boundaries. You need definition. Growing up, the sides of your box were
limits given to you by your parents and culture. These are limits. They
restrain you. You need that at first so you don’t get lost and wander
off into other dimensions (although some of you still did that like I
did!).
But
when you reach adulthood, these limitations can feel severe and
restrict both Soul and Spirit, and you can fall back into a smaller or
lesser self easily. As an adult, you want to consciously choose your
boundaries, and when you do, they no longer are limitations. They
clarify who you see yourself to be and give you an orientation to your
life. Your reality is busy sending you experiences in which you can see
more of who you are. When you bounce off a wall of your box, you know
that you have hit a limit (crisis or stress) and it’s time for you to
expand that wall with a self-chosen boundary instead.
Last
time, I wrote about some boundaries in greater length– the ones that
are your principles. But you see, even your chosen boundaries can
become limitations if you grow and expand too quickly or too much. So
you need to not only change your limits to self-chosen
boundaries, you need to periodically upgrade your boundaries. And in
2018, there has seldom been a more urgent need for you to upgrade and
expand your boundaries and your remaining limits!
As
I see it, there are six boundaries/walls/limits that determine and
define your box. If you were trapped inside a cardboard box shaped like
a cube, you would be inside six walls – the four on the sides, plus the
top and bottom. If the box was very tight, you would push the sides and
bust through. This is the idea with your personal box. If it’s tight,
then push out the walls!
If
you do this exercise in meditation, you push the walls of your personal
box and they move away from you to expand your box, which makes it
bigger. The bigger the box you manage to make, the freer and happier
you will feel. You won’t be banging up against the walls (limits) of
your box and feel stifled, restricted, and held back. Now here’s the
good news!
The
more expanded your box, and the more expanded you are, the greater
reality you can experience. This is what dreaming the New World is all
about. You can literally step into a New Life!
So
what defines your box? As I mentioned before, the limitations you
inherited from your culture as you were “socialized” into being a
person belonging to your culture. These limitations define the walls of
your box. What did you learn about who you are from your culture? As
you are aware of your life education, identifying your own personal
limits will be much easier.
So
here are the defining limits of your box. For the purposes of your
imagination, see it as a cube with 6 sides. Each side or wall has a
theme in your life. When you evaluate these themes and make new, higher
level decisions with them. you are expanding your box consciously. (And
consciously, you know, is your Spiritual Path!)
When
you choose consciously, you are freeing yourself from limits which then
turn into clear boundaries that make your life work so much more
smoothly and successfully. Everyone needs boundaries, but no one needs
limits. You can change this yourself as you step more and more into a
Greater You.
Principles
Principles
are the priorities of order that you choose and align to. They are your
lines in the sand. All choices you make are according to your
definition of these lines. You use them for your conceptual and
philosophical orientation. Principles are markers of your moral
character and philosophy of life.
Examples
of principles are empowerment, freedom, lovingness, honesty, etc. Some
people make choices for safety and security or money opportunism which
basically leads to greater scarcity and fear consciousness. So if your
principles are survivalist ones, you need to upgrade them to something
more enlightened for yourself.
I
discussed principles at length earlier in the Siriun year phase 3.
Please refer to that. If you don’t have what I shared any longer, write
me an email and I’ll resend it to you.
Self-Image
Your
Self-Image and what identities you hold form one of these limits. If
you were to shift your Self-Image into someone outside the normal or
usual limits, then your relationship to your collective, to your family
and community would change accordingly. Some of you have already
experienced this. You found your Spiritual Path and stepped upon it,
changing the way you see yourself and the way you see your world.
Perhaps your friends and family didn’t come along. There can be
feelings of separation and loss, especially of belonging, if that
happens.
For
me, my Spiritual Path came through finding an Indian Guru (or rather,
he found me), who healed me of my emotional and physical traumas,
initiated me into the inner Light and Sound Current, and gave me a Path
to the Divine that felt true to me. This extremely challenged my
fundamentalist southern Christian mother to continue to love me, as I
didn’t seem to be the daughter she thought she knew. She was afraid
that I was a victim of a cult. My guru recommended that I remain loving
and patient with her.
While
I felt freer and happier than before, my mother felt guilt that she had
failed me and failed God. She tried harder than ever to convert me back
to my childhood religion. When that failed, she manipulated,
guilt-tripped me, and threatened me with the devil and hell. So it was
challenging for me to expand my box, and also deal with the fallout of
that with my mother! I’m sure you have a story or two like that too!
Beliefs
Another
boundary or limit of the box has to do with what you believe. Again,
you learn a set of beliefs that, since everyone around you seems to
hold them as true, you agree and think they are true also. Most people
confuse their beliefs with truth, and so they feel that others who do
not hold the same beliefs are dangerous to their community (i.e.
tribe). These “outsiders” could create chaos within the community and
threaten the tribe!
So
everyone in the community is encouraged or even pressured to stand
together and aver the same beliefs. This creates an impression of
strength and support for the members of the community and intimidates
those who would bring the threat into the community. In more extreme
cases, the community will attack and even kill the threatening outsider
so there will be no more conflict about the truth. We’ve seen this
scenario play out over and over through the centuries.
The
reason I bring up this tribal example is because you are expanding your
personal box and also need to expand your cultural box as well. You are
choosing what you wish to believe, now that you see how belief creates
reality. So you are choosing beliefs and attitudes about things that go
along with and support the lifestyle and reality you wish to live.
This
is empowered choice, and you are acknowledging that beliefs are not
written in stone, including your most precious ones. You can expand the
sides of your box and increase its volume when you are able to see your
beliefs as your choice and not as absolute truths. Then you have more
freedom – you are not banging up against the walls of your box.
The
original expansions outside your cultural limitations came when you
rebelled, when you moved against your tribal beliefs. This is what I
call “banging up against the walls of your box.” You did not feel free,
free to be yourself, free to pursue the life you wanted in some way.
Then
you removed yourself from the most limited part of your culture. You
hid yourself, perhaps living among others who believed more like you
did. This made you more comfortable, but soon you would experience the
same dynamic with them as well. As soon as you expanded further, you
could get ousted from this newer network. I’ve seen this happen a lot
with spiritual communities based around a specific spiritual teacher.
It happened to me.
I
had to leave the Satsang, not because I rejected my Master Teacher, but
because I could not continue to grow and honor myself if I held onto
the limited identity of the group.
Another
response to the community is to become detached, and to pretend not to
care. This however, leads one to become numb, and growth pretty much
stops. If you take this route, you cannot relate to people and the
culture at all, and so you must escape in some way. That’s what
addiction gives you. Then all your energy is focused on the struggle
with your will and your addiction – not a good way to escape!
But
now, you have grown so much that you MUST stand up for what YOU choose
to believe, honoring yourself and living life according to YOUR rules
and not live a life dictated by your culture, or your social network,
or by financial considerations.
When
you get to this level of awareness and courage, you are breaking down
the walls of your box. You have become the Visionary busting free of
the box. You are thinking out of the box, and it’s natural and normal
to you.
Your Imagination, Visions, and Dreams
Another
wall of the Box is defined by your Visions and Dreams. What is it that
you wish to experience? Feel? Know? Be? Everyone wants a better life,
but not everyone has the courage and willingness to live a full and
rich life based on their own truth.
You
have had a vision, a big insight, an aha moment in which you have
imagined your full potential and the greatest of possibilities. This
expansive potential is your personal Vision. It includes being a
Luminous Human, your Greater Self, and the joy and love and happiness
creating your own life the way you want it. Everyone’s Vision is
unique, but a Vision is greater than the physical world, and thus has a
strong spiritual-Divine component to it.
Your
Vision can also be imagined for the world, since it is so expansive. It
goes beyond good and bad, right and left, up and down – i.e. beyond
duality. It can be anchored in the experience of Oneness, that all
beings (including humans, animals, plants, and even rocks) are made up
of the same soul stuff of the Divine. We are all family. Visions are
huge and inclusive in scope! They hold the intangibles we all desire;
love, safety, joy, and so forth.
Your
Dream is the life you imagine for yourself, the people, the lifestyle,
and your achievements. It includes the greatest capacity of your work
and activities, and a lifestyle that may include a big house, living by
the beach, having a wonderful mate, and more. Your Dream can be dreamed
for those you care about as well. Your Dream for your children may for
them to have a good mate, a good education, to be healthy, happy in
their work, etc.
You
can also Dream for your World. I have discussed your Dream Future for
several months now, and that is a full and complete imagining of what
your life will be like in the ideal Future. A Dream is a kind of ideal.
It shows you where to move towards and what you want to address, do,
create, or celebrate on your way to that.
Most
people do not go for their Dreams, as they are encouraged to “settle.”
Settling is not a small lifestyle, with little money or poor level job.
It’s a small idea of you. Your Self is a lesser, limited one, and a
compromise of who you are. So dream big. Even if you don’t get all the
way there, your life will have zest!
Visions
and Dreams together are beyond the collective, beyond the consensus
mainstream reality, and can be tapped only through heightened
imagination and creative intuition. Thus, the capacity that you have to
imagine them and to imagine a reality that is not present or has never
been present in your life is the biggest key to discovering your
Visions and Dreams and making them a reality. After all, you can’t
manifest anything unless you can imagine it!
Use
your imagination to expand your perception of yourself and of your
reality. This boundary of your box is generally defined by how well you
can imagine, so practice your imagination daily. Since imagination is a
5th dimensional vibration, you can see that imagination can take you
out of 3-D limitations and allow your Visions and Dreams to be dreamt.
Again,
as in earlier newsletters, I emphasize that your Visions and Dreams are
not defined by the physical circumstances of your life that you desire,
but the intangible feels and states of being that you hold. In other
words, your resonance, your vibratory field, is what holds the Dream
before you, lifting you up to it. From there, you attract (remember
that famous Law of Attraction?) all the physical goodies that you want.
So,
playing the lottery and hoping for millions of bucks keeps you in
2-dimensional fantasy and not on the track to your Dream, and certainly
not to your Vision either. The lottery is an example of cultural
scarcity consciousness, so when you are expanding, you are more
sensitive than usual, and lottery playing is generally not that
conducive to being empowered, present, and advancing towards your
Visions and Dreams.
If
you refuse to dream, thinking it’s futile, considering all the burdens
you carry, the obligations you are shouldering, and the duties to
others more important than you, then your box stays very small. You do
not feel free. If you think you must be logical with “pragmatic”
thinking so that you can have a safe and secure life, you are in a
small box. Over time, it will feel tighter and tighter and you will
have less and less freedom. Just sayin’!
Physicality/Capacity to Thrive
If
you have difficulty with your body, and with your health levels and
vitality, you are also going to feel confined in your box. I’ve already
spoken about your Commission of Challenge. It’s your weakest place
among the big three, love, money, and health, and you will consistently
have “tests” in that area.
For
me, it’s been my physical body. For you, it may be another area. But
this I know, and it’s bad news. If you can’t get a good night’s sleep,
digest your food well, and feel good energy and motivation to do
things, then you will not be able to manifest your Dream. You are
compelled to focus on healing yourself instead.
But
there’s good news too. It’s that, in the process of healing yourself,
you can develop your inner light, love, caring, and value for yourself.
This will expand your self-image and enable you to connect better with
your Greater Self. In the process, you can totally shift your
Self-Defeating mind talk, shift beliefs, and learn how to rest, love
and nurture yourself. You can tap into the magic and mystery of those
Dream Future intangibles, such as joy (which is a very high healer),
love, receiving, and creative imagination. You can heal the emotional
and spiritual pain and anguish, reducing your physical pain and health
crises.
For
me, I had chronic fatigue (Epstein-Barr, Candida, and Fibromyalgia). I
couldn’t do my work any longer. Even though it appeared to be easy
(counseling/coaching using astrology), I was too stressed out and
exhausted by it to continue. So I got into channeling. Now I channel,
and my work is popular and totally healing me. No more pain and
debilitating exhaustion! I have found what I am to do, at least for
now. So your health issues often have a deeper purpose, and focusing on
your health in a spiritual and loving way will lead you to a greater
sense of connection with the world and the ability to give love and
compassion to all.
Agendas/Purpose and Intention
Children
and adolescents don’t know how to handle responsibility. It’s not yet
available in their brains and body, nor is it in their emotional
maturity level. And when people are immature, they will be tempted to
lie to cover up any shame and put on a impervious armored façade. They
will try to manipulate people into liking them or giving them money.
They can even take on an attitude of entitlement, as if their
powerlessness as children and embarrassments as adolescents earns them
points. They will succumb to their negative egos and even end up
shooting themselves in the foot.
In
our culture, we are not encouraged to grow up and be responsible,
mature, and self-loving. We may adopt, for purposes of our façade, a
childish version of one or more of these, i.e. making promises that
seem responsible and then not following through, giving excuses and
blaming something or someone else. Maturity is faked as well,
with domination, preaching, and pompous pretending to know it all.
Loving ourselves can be translated as self-flattery and aggrandizement,
with a lot of entitlement on one hand or even a lot of self-pity on the
other. And we can set “boundaries” that are actually demands for others
to kowtow to while we protect what we see and our own vulnerabilities
and weaknesses.
When
we make these adaptations, which are nearly universal, we have an
underlying agenda, an ego agenda. But we also have a true agenda. Every
being alive has an agenda. It is to survive, to live. Beyond that, we
have needs. And we have our primary desires; to be unconditionally
loved, and to be safe.
We
have needs, such as physical survival, safety, belonging, love,
self-esteem, empowerment, beauty, to be heard and acknowledged, to
express ourselves in some way, to have hope for the future, motivation
to do something, something to look forward to, and others.
If
we feel our ability to get these needs are threatened in any way, we
fear that they will not be met. Then we play “games” – duplicitous,
sneaky ways to get them. For example, many people are driven to prove
or be seen that they are right. For many years, I’ve argued with my
first husband and then my second husband that I was right and he was
wrong, and he argued that he was right and I was wrong.
Demanding
that you are right is manipulative and an attempt to be one-up on the
other person. It’s blatant ego domination. Most arguments between
immature people, if not all of them, are a contest over who is right.
Who gets to call the shots? Who gets to look like he or she is in total
control?
True Agenda and Ego Agenda
So
when we talk about having an agenda, there is a true agenda and then
there is the dubious ego-driven agenda. In your self-evaluation, make
sure your agenda is pure and not ego driven. Get clear with where you
stand on your needs.
When
you do this, you tap into your sense of purpose, your ambition and
motivation to move towards your personal Dream and Global Vision. Then
you will have more success and happiness. You will find that your
reality, your personal Universe, will support you. Magic will happen.
It’s
not easy to identify ego agendas in yourself and weed them out. You
have not been taught to be mature, self-loving, or fully responsible,
nor have you been given the clarity to identify your negative ego’s
interference in your truth.
One
way I recommend to find them is to review your relationships and see if
you try to control someone else by using guilt as persuasion, or if you
need to be right. You can imagine that there is way more on this topic,
but hopefully, what I’ve shared here is enough to give you a good head
start on expanding your wall of Agendas to find your clarity of Purpose
and true motivation.
Reality Creation Means Giving Dimension to Something
In
order to make any choice real and to then create and allow
manifestations in alignment with your truth, you want to make your
choices real. If you stay in the wishful ideal stage, you may feel
better. You can even get high on expanding your box. But once you are
expanding your walls and moving into ownership of your life’s
boundaries and clarity, you want to manifest a reality based on the
resonance of what greater expansion you have chosen.
To
make anything real instead of remaining in fantasy space, you must give
it dimension. Since you live in 3-D, I suggest you see each wall as a
theme for your boundary. Find a code word or phrase that describes what
you are aiming for in each of the six walls. Then take these six words
or phrases and imagine that you are viewing or sensing these themes as
being in your three dimensional life.
How
do you do this? Imagine another box, another cube, and the theme of the
cube is whatever boundary or choice you have made. For example, you
have decided to expand your agendas into a greater sense of purpose. So
you will see the cube of purpose here.
Now
the cube is not going to be a perfect symmetrical cube. It may be very
wide but short, or it may be high but have hardly any depth. Use your
intuition to sense how your cube is shaped. There is no right or wrong
shape of your cube. It’s just feedback, so don’t be concerned whether
you’re doing this right or not.
Height
Get up close to the cube, so close that you could crawl inside it. Sense the height. The height of the cube is how much
you can acknowledge and allow. How much greatness in yourself do you
sense is available? How much success can you let in? How much love? How
high can you reach? How high can you stretch your upper limits?
In
my example, do you feel a lot of purpose? Are you charged up,
passionate, enthused? Do you feel like you have a high reaching purpose
– can you feel your Divine Purpose, your Personal Mission?
Width
The width reflects the areas of life
that will be impacted positively by your expanded theme. Do you need to
expand your consciousness in a certain area, or is the width tight,
indicating that you don’t see how you can apply the theme in love,
money, health, etc.
In
my example, if it’s tight, do you run your ego agenda programs through
your relationships and your business? Are you using your health issues
to garner sympathy and get excuses? What would it feel like if you had
a sense of purpose in a loving way in all your life areas. Wouldn’t
that be fun?
Depth
And
finally, look at the depth of the cube. This indicates how real, rich,
and deep your mature sense of purpose goes. Here is where you see how
well you own and honor the powerful reality creator you are and hold
the confidence and inner knowing that you are “on purpose.”
In
the example, do you balance your imagination and desire with
commitment? Who are you now; your lesser self, doing things just to get
your money and toys, or are you truly owning your greater nature? Do
you seek a win-win solution with all people you interact with? Do you
own your success? Do you receive your success, knowing that you have
not earned it and are not entitled to it, but are capable of receiving
it because it’s normal and natural for you, the powerful reality
creator that you are?
Further Explorations
Once
you work with the 6 sides of your box, and you are seeing the changes
moving through your life experiences, you may want to go more in
detail. This is for those who love to know everything they can and
explore reality creation at a deeper level.
If
you are intrigued with this Matrix, I suggest that you take the six
themes and look closely at them, one at a time, in their own cube. Look
at their height, their width, and their depth. How much do you own of
the organizational structure of your energy and focus?
For those who love the research, however, there is a caveat. While focusing greatly on the details, you gotta have fun!
Celebrate your life, love your life!
Ginger
This article written by
Ginger Metraux, Ph.D.
"The Mystic Professor"
(c) 2017-2018, Ginger Metraux and Giniel, Inc., Encino, CA, USA
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