The Reality Zone
Staying in the Channel of Manifesting and Receiving
with Ease and Magic
In order to move into a momentum of success, you want to get into
the Flow. This Flow is the movement of your reality, where you move
forward towards what you want and your Universe sends you circumstances
and feedback to help you as the Light Being you are learn what to do
and how to do it. Everyone has a Flow, but most people have a jerky
Flow or a Flow that stops and starts over and over again. Needless to
say, this is no way to experience a momentum of success if you have to
keep handling snap backs, self-sabotages, and difficulties staying
motivated.
What you are wanting in your life is the ease and
elegance that happens when you and your reality are aligned in Harmony
and Flow. You are always in your own tempo, flow, and style of
movement. It’s as if you are moving through a channel or along a track
like a train where things manifest in your life. If your Flow is jerky
or stop and start, your desired manifestations will also be hit or
miss. You’ll hit resistances and drag that knocks you out of the flow,
or into a “stall out” or even full stop.
These resistances
that trigger your stops and slow downs and keep you from manifesting
the life you want, come from within. However, you see the
manifestations of these inner blockages and resistances “out there” in
your physical reality. Where you see your manifestations, good or
bad, is in the Zone of Realization, or what I like to call the Reality
Zone. When you can stay in the Flow in your Reality Zone, you
will experience a momentum. Since you are always in your Reality
Zone, you can experience a block to your Flow as falling out of the
Zone. So I want to share how to get “into the Zone” – your positive
Flow Zone, rather than the jerky and potentially difficult regular
daily zone, with its struggle and additional effort.
You see,
when you are in the Flow Zone, you experience ease and a sense of
positive forward movement without resistances. Things here fall into
place like ducks in a row. This Zone is where you can experience the
magic and total flow of natural abundance that is your spiritual
birthright. This is where you were meant to be, 24/7!
A
well-functioning Reality Zone is natural to you as a human being.
However, if you have issues around love, money, self-expression,
receiving, self-image and identity, and have a tough inner Slave Driver
pushing you all the time (see Your Inner Sabateurs article for more
info on this), you will fall out of the Flow, outside your desired
Reality Zone. Since most people have one or more issues going on that
seem to be intractable or unsolvable, they can spend much of their
lives outside their Reality Zones.
It doesn’t have to be that
way. You can, by awareness and choice, move yourself into your positive
Reality Zone and see the phenomenal difference in your life
immediately. You don’t have to be perfect, with absolutely all issues
taken care of, in order to experience grand success! And it can be
relatively easy to receive the phenomenal abundance and prosperity that
is your divine gift.
You can get into the Flow Zone through
using your imagination, enjoying the feeling of the Divine Flow and
Harmony. But in order to stay there, you must identify what you are
doing that is not in the zone, and stop it by choice. There are two
ways to fall out of the Reality Zone. On one side, you will have a
reality that isn’t real enough, is too weak, and lacks action. On the
other side, you will have a reality that is way too significant, too
real and heavy. Either way, your Flow isn’t working for you. I call
these two sides, the Dissociation Side and the “Big Deal” Side.
The Dissociation Side
When
your flow is too weak, it’s because you’ve separated yourself mentally
and emotionally from your reality, from the stream where abundance
comes to you. We call this Dissociation. When you dissociate, you are
afraid to take action and prefer to hide from the world stage. You have
fantasies of success, safety/security, and happiness where all your
problems have been solved. This is a pleasant one-dimensional fantasy
world that can enable you to temporarily escape from the onerous and
possibly overwhelming duties and obligations of your daily life. But
the Path of Dissociation brings no change, and you may instead end up
depressed and feeling stuck. You may often feel tired. You just
don’t have enough energy to be “in the Zone.”
Most people who
are on a spiritual path fall out of their Reality Zones into the
Dissociation side. It’s a favorite of women who are often considered
ditsy or spacey. And it’s a favorite of men who fear the ridicule and
humiliation of getting out there in the world to make a lot of money
and then failing. Do either of these sound familiar? It’s easy to
get into thinking that if you just meditate enough, do enough
processing, build great dream boards, and send everyone love, that
success should knock at your door any moment! Hopefully, you’ll at
least feel better for a while, but remember; this is all based on a
fantasy about how the world works and what you need to do to survive in
it.
This can bring in two issues that will keep you dissociated
and out of the Flow stream of success and happiness. One, you can
become too passive and too hesitant to take action. You wait for the
right time, but end up indefinitely “on hold.” There aren’t enough
established pathways through which the people you want in your life can
actually find you. You can feel wonderfully high and enlightened, but
still nothing much is happening on the physical plane. Often, your
energy field is pretty, but quiet. A really thriving energy field is
usually moving, colorful, and expanding.
Secondly, if you are
sensitive, creative, and intelligent, you can fall into analyzing
things too much in order to understand them. Over time, you can become
cynical. Nothing seems to make sense or make the difference you want
and it’s still not safe to go “out there.” So you make judgments about
the world and all those stupid unconscious people, and how much
negativity is out there. These judgments keep you separate from the
flow, the love, the light, and the manifestations of abundance that
come to you from all those stupid people “out there.”
The Big Deal Side
The
other way to fall out of the Reality Zone is to over-charge the
significance of your desires and your emotional states. This too, has a
fantasy component. You get all the self-improvement encouragement to go
out there and be a champion, even if that doesn’t feel all that natural
to you, and worse, even if you don’t want to do it that workaholic way!
Now you who do choose to get out the door and do engage
yourselves with the world to do the work are brave people, and that’s
laudable. But when your push yourself to do all of these ambitious
things, with the fantasy that you can earn great success, love, and
manifest great things because someone you admire has done it, it’s easy
to make whatever you want more important, weighty, and meaningful than
it is. Stuff is just stuff. The more important you make your
manifestations and your goals, the harder it is to stay on track to
them.
For example, you may feel that having money will
bring you freedom, power, or permission to be who you really are. Very
commonly, people pine for love so that it can bring them security or
peace. Once you have that peace and love, you figure, you can move
ahead in all aspects of your life. If you don’t get the money or the
love, then you will feel hurt and anger - heavy emotions that you take
to mean that there’s something wrong with you. Or maybe you simply
didn’t try hard enough. Or even this one; the Universe is punishing you
because of your karma! In all these ways, you end up feeling that
whatever you do is not enough. You then, are not good enough. And the
goal is elusive and still way too significant and important.
These
behaviors and assumptions create emotional stress and drama. You end up
judging yourself and others too much. Here you can be obsessed with the
material forms that manifestation take, rather than the energetic
essence of them and the state of being you expect to be in when your
desire is granted. You think what you need inside is only available
once you get something out there in the physical-material realm. Thus
for example, you struggle to get money, but lack the mind-set to
receive it.
The pressure is on. Your Inner Slave Driver, the one
who motivates you negatively – i.e. through guilt and fear, is on your
back, cracking the whip. You need to get something going big and fast
now! You think you must put out great effort and score some significant
connections with celebrities or powerful people and the like. You’re
driving yourself to hurry up and be successful, and one danger is that
you sacrifice other parts of your life to become a workaholic.
If
it’s a relationship you want, you sign up on all the dating sites, go
to bars, and do a lot of stuff you wouldn’t ordinarily do to find
someone fast and get away from impending loneliness you think of as
devastating and sad. In both of these cases, you could fear that you
cannot lose your focus or pause, even for a moment. You worry that if
you did, you’d drop the ball and let bad realities “catch up” with you.
You have to stay ahead!
If you look for value, validation, and
happiness to come to you from your manifestations, then the
manifestations will be way too tough to pull off. You will try hard to
score the “Big Deal,” or you will rush, thinking that if you hurry fast
enough, you can manifest a success before you collapse! You may even
feel that if people look too closely at you, they will see your
inadequacy, your weaknesses, your flaws, and realize that you are a
sham. That would be disaster! You’d fail and be rejected, excluded, and
ostracized. People would laugh at you, or feel sorry for you. Yikes!
You
can imagine how hard it is to have a great relationship if you can’t
allow yourself to get intimate, because if you were rejected, you would
be way too crushed! Or you can’t allow yourself to find trustworthy
business partners, because if you actually scored the Big Deal, you
would be overloaded with the pressure to succeed even more! This is
Fear of Failure, or the same thing seen differently, Fear of Success.
The
issues that come with the Big Deal approach can be taking things way
too personally and getting overstressed by others’ little mistreatments
of you, or the slowdown of a project. You can get over anxious when
things aren’t working right and then get angry and react
knee-jerk-like, sabotaging things. This snaps you back into the limited
place where you started. If you have a history of your deals falling
apart, or your plans sabotaged just as things were going right, you
were probably falling off into the Big Deal side.
So, neither
Dissociativity or “Big Dealitis” is the way to get into the Flow. If
you spend too much time outside the Reality Zone, you will despair of
ever getting there, which will keep you stuck. And you may not
stay exclusively on one side, but flop back and forth from one side to
the other. This is very tiring and you will get exhausted with all the
drama that accompanies this. This can discourage you from moving
forward, because you may see it as being so tiring and stressful.
You
need a way to get yourself back into positive alignment with the Divine
Flow that brings you abundance, love, and prosperity. You need to know
why you aren’t in the zone, where the zone is, how to get back easily
into the Zone, and how to stay in it long term and build momentum. So
here are suggestions on what you can do to pull yourself into that Flow
with the least amount of resistance and the maximum amount of
self-value and self-love.
Getting Back into the Zone
Know the Zone
Begin
with your imagination. What is it you want to experience in the Zone?
Imagine it and step into that and experience the resonance, the
frequency, the feeling of it. This then will be your energetic memory
template that will orient you to the Zone itself, i.e. let you know
when you are in there. You can start by making a list of all the
intangible things you want in your life, i.e. love, freedom, security,
passionate enthusiasm, creativity, joy, joy of life, self-esteem,
belonging, harmony, beauty, ease, and whatever else you want. Notice
that these are all “intangibles.” They are felt but have no
physicality. They are states of being. As you choose each word, feel
it, sense it, and imagine it. If you can’t imagine it, you won’t
experience it and the benefits that go with it.
Select the five
best words that describe the state of your success being in the Flow.
Feel them one at a time and sense their positive vibration. Then
imagine what your life would feel like if you had all five going at
once, and going all day long. Imagine your future where you live every
day in this wondrous soup of Light Resonance. You may see pictures in
your imagination, or maybe you just sense things.
See
yourself, between one and two years into the future, living your life
with a big smile on your face. Now step into that energy, and imagine
yourself present inside that life. In other words, BE your Future Self.
What does your body feel like when you hold that beautiful resonance?
And then just imagine; where are you living? Don’t project or make
anything up. Use the place where you live now, unless you are already
planning to move. See yourself just way happier and freer in that
space. Imagine yourself getting up in the morning in this space, while
you are enjoying your day holding those states of being. You may have
to keep going through the five vibrations as you imagine all of this.
Eventually, you’ll simply feel the great state of positive resonance
any time you think of it.
Now see yourself with all the
physical, material things you want. Touch them, hold them, smell, taste
and touch them so that they feel more real and present to you. Again, I
remind you that you are inside your imagined future, not watching it
like a movie. Feel how natural and normal it is to have these things
and to feel this good all the time. Claim it for yourself, “yes, this
is what my life is naturally like all the time.” Choose with your will
to experience this as real in your daily life. Just say, “I choose to
experience this every day,” and mean it.
This is imagining
your Beingness. It’s the “container” for everything, the baseline, the
orientation that guides you. It tells you that you are moving across
the boundaries from the Big Deal or Disassociation channels into the
Zone.
Okay, you’ve got the energy of the Flow, but this is a
static picture you have just imagined. Galexis and I see beautiful
auras of people when doing psychic scans, but these auras are going
nowhere. If you want to actually move in the Flow, you need to imagine
more of the movement part of your future. See yourself actively doing
things in this future, engaged with the world, discussing stuff with
people, doing creative projects, and having fun with all the things
that you love to do. Imagine your Doing.
Know What Throws you Out of the Zone
Now
you need to discover how to catch yourself falling out of the Zone, and
see which side you are falling into. So spend a couple of days
identifying the two sides in your daily life. You will have a favorite
side, but you also need to think about your past to see if you can
remember falling into the other side too.
For example, I
tended to spend time on the space cadet side, detached from the world
in my safe little ivory tower. However, I could remember the Big Deal
side too. I would fall into that side when I was working on a project I
was passionate about. Just as I was about to get successful with it,
the rug was pulled out from under me and I crashed. I remembered that
this had happened several times. I would start in the Flow but then I’d
crash up against this wall or all the energy would drop out.
So
once you see how you are when you are out of the Zone, you can see how
being outside the Zone impacts your life. Do you have a pattern like
mine where you fall into sabotage again and again? Are you able to get
up from the floor, dust yourself off and re-enter the Zone? Most people
cannot do this, but tend to wallow on the sidelines. When I would fall
into one of the side grooves, I would analyze everything over and over,
chewing on it as if my mind wanted to digest it thoroughly. I learned
how to express and release my anger. That helped, but I also judged
myself, and I judged others. Frustrated and discouraged, I would
retreat more deeply into my tower and wait for the next idea or
opportunity to come along.
What I learned over time outside the
Zone was that I was reinforcing my bad habits, patterns, and choices
through my mind talk. I would talk to myself as I analyzed things, and
I would come to some conclusions why my life was so hard. These would
become limiting beliefs, which would hamper my imagination. I would
feel despair over even starting a project, expecting that at some
point, I would crash.
Triggers
I would imagine the Zone
and slip back in. After a while, I was able to tell by my state of
being moving into a stressed emotion. I also noticed that I would fall
out of the Zone immediately if I encountered some circumstance and
instantly resisted it or strongly reacted to it.
What I was
reacting to I call a Trigger. We all have Triggers. A Trigger activates
your automatic knee-jerk reaction of resistance, an instinctual
response. You may be reacting to a perceived threat of being judged,
rejected, losing something, having someone be angry at you, being held
responsible and guilty for something you’ve done, getting blocked from
what you want, or that someone else is upset because you’re interfering
with something they are wanting or doing, and thus they want you to
back off. There are more. These I give here are just examples. We
encounter these every day.
While these are emotional triggers,
and not direct physical threats, they feel quite stressful. When you
hit a Trigger and react to it, you will notice a distinct shift in the
state of your being. Your adrenalin starts flowing and your fight or
flight mechanism has been activated. You are put on “alert,” and you
know that immediate action is required on your part. All this takes
place in a second! You can even feel threatened. Maybe you think you
now have to initiate a verbal attack on another person as a
defense/aggression because you feel you are being attacked. If you do
this, it’s likely you’ll insist that you are right and argue it
Throughout
all of this, your stomach area can move from feeling comfortable and
free to feeling tight and twisted in an instant. Your body is telling
you that you are in stress. Emotionally, you may feel confused or
upset, disturbed. Or you just may feel as if all the colors in your
life drained out of you and you are living in a black-and-white
reality. Whatever it is, you need to be able to identify this shift
into stress.
Without a Trigger, you can still slip and slide
away from the Zone. To identify when this happens, you must be aware of
your mind talk, beliefs about what’s going to happen in the near
future, attitudes about another person, and any feelings of limitation
with yourself, such as feeling unworthy or inadequate to your
challenges. You will see how both sides of the Zone hold a fantasy
belief about reality (“if I’m nice, no one will be upset at me,” or “if
I work long hours I will succeed”). You’ll also find a small
self-identity (“I don’t know what to do, I’m just a student here”) or a
big ego identity (“I can do anything I want, treat everyone how I want,
and I can get away with it and succeed”). Both of these are small,
limited identities that can sabotage your happiness.
Take Your Power
Just
as you learn swimming by being in the water and not on dry land, you
have to learn how to respond powerfully no matter what happens. At
least you can do one thing up front. You can decide that when you fall
out of the Zone, you will stay present, stay in your power and keep
your focus – and then deliberately do what you need to do to step back
into the Zone. It takes a few times before you will remember that you
have decided to do this and you can respond calmly in the moment of a
Trigger. So don’t be hard on yourself.
The moment of a Trigger
is also what I call the Moment of Power. You have the choice, the
option as to what you will pay attention to and respond to. If you
don’t have power, you will fall for the same scams over and over, or
you’ll apologize, even if you have done nothing wrong. You’ll give the
power over the situation you are in to another person or to the
circumstance and be a victim. Victim consciousness will never allow you
to step back into the Zone! It probably was your normal state of being
back during adolescence or even childhood, but it’s not where you need
to be now. It is up to you to choose that you are powerful enough to
make a responsible, empowered decision about what to do. It’s being an
adult, and what’s more, it’s being a spiritual, empowered adult.
After
you notice a few times that you have fallen out of the Zone or that you
are stuck outside of the Zone, you will start to have a greater
presence of mind when it starts happening. Eventually, you’ll recognize
the Trigger, because it is probably familiar and recurs fairly often,
and your pattern of response is very similar too. Think about your
power, and what it feels to be empowered. Then remember a typical
response you did to a common Trigger. You’ll notice the vast energetic
difference! Then you can be aware and in your power, and you can easily
and deliberately put yourself back into the Zone. Remember those five
words and their state of being? Bring them in, via your imagination.
Now you are able respond differently!
Power and presence is what
you need to own for yourself, because it’s easy to get stuck or stalled
out in that resistant space in the moment of shift. Again, be present.
Listen to your inner mind talk as it yaks about what’s happening. Feel
your body’s fear or anger. Stay in your power and claim this reality as
YOUR reality, YOUR playing field. Don’t let someone else or
circumstances take you away from it.
If you’re an extra smart
individual (and smarts can be dangerous here!), you can fall off on
both sides at once! Recognize how doing dissociation or getting
overloaded with significance is keeping you away from the Abundance.
Make a choice that you are ready and willing to be the successful you,
the one who receives the natural flow of abundance. See your identity
as someone who is living a magical, enchanted life instead of
struggling. Remember what I’ve said about the Dream Future. Those five
words can ensure that you can tap into the reality of that Dream
Future, and thus you will have to presence to respond as the adult you
are.
Further Study
Switch from Negative to Positive States Deliberatly
Obviously,
you know when you are not in the Reality Zone. Stuff isn’t working the
way you want and you are in some kind of love or money scarcity. Plus,
your body feels stressed and possibly tired. So now’s your opportunity
to go deeper and become even more successful and empowered! Feel the
essence of being in scarcity or some other state you truly dislike
being in. It doesn’t feel good, does it? Now imagine what you would
feel like if you were able to be in your world, loving your life, and
having an abundance of resources, love, opportunities, and adventures.
This
imagination is more “active” than the usual dissociation fantasy, isn’t
it? What would it feel like being your Divine Self, having a great
time, consciously creating, playing, experimenting, receiving, and
communing with your world? What would it feel like to belong, feel
others’ love, and stay in a happy, positive upbeat state of mind?
Choose the positive state and see it as being NATURAL AND NORMAL for
you! Imagine! The more you do this, the more you are in charge of your
own emotions, beliefs, and mind talk, and thus the more you are
successful.
Release and Fire! the Inner Slave Driver
And
let go of the Inner Slave Driver. Why are you doing what you do? Why
are you aiming for the goals you desire? It’s because you are motivated
by the ambition to get there. But what if your ambition has been given
to you from others and isn’t your own? What do you REALLY want to do?
Release all guilt and fear around doing what YOU want to do, and then
reassess if the strategy you are taking to get to a goal (love, money,
health) is something in alignment with who you really are as a
spiritual being. If you continue to force yourself to be motivated due
to necessity (those “hav-to’s”) and putting out fires (crises) all the
time, you won’t be in the Zone.
See Your Beauty and Your Spiritual Majesty
Acknowledge
your beauty and Divine Self. Look in your mirror and see yourself
without judgment. Look into your eyes, the window of your Soul. You are
a divine reality creator, a spark of God-consciousness. Imagine and
feel that your reality is friendly and supportive, and you are a
spiritual being having a physical life experience.
Now step into
this identity of you the Big Light Being, and release all your
judgments on the world and yourself. Breathe out with a strong exhale.
Now take some action, however small, to advance on your dreams (your
real ones, not the fake ones given you by others or necessity), and
simultaneously stay in your spiritual identity as long as you can.
As
you return to the Zone, watch for magical synchronicities happening.
Allow yourself to open to receive fearlessly, knowing that you can
allow everything to come to you and that which you do not care for, you
can let go on by. Feel your power as you do your actions. You’re back
in the saddle for now.
Laugh!
Finally, don’t get hard
on yourself if you fall out of the Zone. Just laugh, “there I’ve fallen
out again!” And get back in. How easy is that? No beating yourself up
required! Maybe give yourself some self-forgiveness if you think you
really flubbed up big-time, but don’t dwell on your mistakes. Keep up
your humor. After a while, this shifting will become automatic and you
will find yourself more and more in the Reality Zone where all
wonderful things keep coming. Remember, you are in your power and you
can always take a pause for a breather. You can call upon your Divine
Flow any time to work for you, if you know how.
Blessings,
Ginger
This article written by
Ginger Metraux, Ph.D.
"The Mystic Professor"
(c) 2017-2018, Ginger Metraux and Giniel, Inc., Encino, CA, USA
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